Out of the closet and into the workplace

Today is National Coming Out Day and, like last year, I think it’s the perfect time for a coming out story. This time it’s about how I came out to my current employer – EMC Isilon.

During the interview with the hiring manager, Ryan Farris, it came up naturally in the conversation that, at the time, I was married to a man. Some question was posed to which the natural response was “My husband and I…”, and being the natural response, I said it. I had decided years before that I didn’t want to work for a manager or an employer who had an issue with me being gay. Ryan didn’t bat an eye at my response. Nor has anyone at the company ever batted an eye in my almost 2 years there.

In short: I didn’t ‘come out’ to my manager or fellow employees – I simply lived my life as out. I am very fortunate to work in a industry where this is possible. Others aren’t so fortunate and those of us who can owe it to others to be out in our personal lives and at work.

And it’s entirely appropriate to point out that EMC Isilon recently publicly announced their support for marriage equality.

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I'm a gay geek living in Seattle, WA.

2 thoughts on “Out of the closet and into the workplace”

  1. Being out, without coming out I feel is important and where we’re moving towards..

    I wrote to a friend of mine: [A path that, I hope will…] become more prevalent is not to come out, but also don’t be in. In many ways one’s sexuality is a private affair and isn’t relevant much of the time. So if someone asks tell them. If you’re interested in dating someone ask them. If someone asks if you have a girlfriend, tell them you have a boyfriend, or you’re looking for a boyfriend. This is where I’m at now, although it took quite some time for me to get here.


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