Celebrating with family

Yesterday was an amazing day for the gays. After the news broke, Facebook was all aflutter with posts and my phone was buzzing with texts from friends. It lasted all day. And yet at the end of the day it was very noticeable who I hadn’t heard from: anyone to whom I am biologically related.

That’s right, not a peep from any of my family-by-blood. Not even a ‘like’ on Facebook. This isn’t all that surprising, particularly from my parents, but it is noteworthy and reiterates to me, again, how much my family-by-choice is more a family to me than the one I was born into.

An arc-bending day

I do not pretend to understand the moral universe; the arc is a long one, my eye reaches but little ways; I cannot calculate the curve and complete the figure by the experience of sight; I can divine it by conscience. And from what I see I am sure it bends towards justice.
Theodore ParkerOf Justice and Conscience, 1853

Today was, by every measure, a historic day for gay men and women in every corner of the United States. Today the SCOTUS struck down section 3 of DOMA and found the defendants of California’s Proposition 8 lacked standing before the court.

I have been giddy all day. It almost feels surreal. This upcoming weekend is Seattle’s gay pride and it will be a spectaular celebration.

I’m not going go into detail about what this means (IANAL and you can Google as well as I can), but I wanted to hit the high points for those of you following along at home:

  • Gays and lesbians who are married in any US state that allows it will have their relationship recognized by the federal government. They will file their federal taxes as “married”, spouses will have social security survival benefits, these couples can now get immigration benefits, and much more.1
  • Gays and lesbians in California can once again marry — or will be able to very soon.

One very important thing that did not happen is having section 2 of DOMA struck down. Section 2 allows states that do not recognize same-sex marriages to refuse recognizing same-sex marriages from other states. So if you get married in Washington and move to Alabama, your marriage will not be recognized. “But what about the full faith and credit clause of the constitution?” you’re asking. Well, we’re asking that too and until section 2 of DOMA is repealed or struck down, we’re still stuck with that discrepancy.2 In the meant time, businesses in states that allow same-sex marriage have a firm leg up on recruiting LGBT talent over those that don’t. And trust me, they know this.

What I’m really hoping is that that we can now take a month to catch our breath, to revel in our newfound equality. Then we can start anew on other far-reaching issues like a nation-wide employee non-discrimination act to prevent LGBT folks from being fired just because they’re gay. We can focus on LGBT youth organizations that help youth who have been kicked out of their homes because they came out to their parents. We continue to fight for marriage equality in those backwards states that haven’t seen the light.3

But for now, we celebrate.

1 For gays who marry in a state where it’s legal and move to a state where it isn’t, which federal rights you get will vary based on the agency.

2 Trust me, this is high on the list of the Gay Agenda.

3 Earlier today I wondered if it is more cost effective to help pay LGBT folks to relocate from states that don’t have same-sex marriage instead of financing the effort to change the state laws. I’d contribute money to help free LGBT folks from repressive, backward states like Texas.

Tomorrow history will be made

Tomorrow morning at 10am EDT, the SCOTUS will release their ruling on DOMA and Prop 8.

Tomorrow is 10 years to the day that they issued their ruling on Lawrence v Texas which struck down sodomy laws making same-sex sexual activity legal in every state.

Tomorrow we discover if thousands of committed couples in CA are able to get married and acquire, at a minimum, protections and responsibilities under CA law.

Tomorrow’s decision will be life-changing for tens of thousands of married gay couples across America, either granting them 1138 rights by recognizing their marriage at the federal level, or continuing to withhold those rights.

Tomorrow we’ll discover if we’re still second-class citizens.

Tomorrow history will be made.

Must. Eat. More.

According to my FitBit, I burn around 2200 calories on any given day when I don’t run based merely on my life as a pedestrian. That number goes up by about 1000 on days where I run. On days I don’t run I lift weights which probably tacks on another 500 calories to that 2200. So lets call it ~3000 calories/day for my average daily calorie burn.1

For shits and giggles I calculated how many calories I’ll consume today based on the lunch and dinner I packed and my usual array of snacks throughput the day: 2204. That’s 800 calories shy of my 3000 maintenance level, and 1300 less than my goal of 500-over-maintenance if I’m trying to gain muscle mass. I seem to rediscover this over and over.

On the plus side, my protein intake is about in line with what I’m needing — I just need to up the calorie count.

1 The OCD person in me is cringing at all of the hand-wavy estimations in these numbers, but I’m rolling with it.