It’s taken over a decade, but I’m finally at the point where I feel consistently good-looking with my clothes on. After 13 years of physical work, mental work, and wardrobe work, I still don’t feel consistently good-looking with my shirt off. There are sporadic, fleeting moments when I have shirtless self-confidence, but they are rare.
Sadly, I’m well past the physical prime of my life and it is highly unlikely that I’ll ever get to where I want to be with physical work. Instead my best hope is to change my goal with some mental work.